Why Your Heroes Will Fail You
Throughout our lives we will be drawn to certain individuals because of their success and accolades. For most, they represent gifts we are working hard to attain, or an image we want to behold. We hold them to high regard, only seeing the good we believe they are. Like me, you've probably experienced that moment when the ugliness is revealed, maybe it's thru an entrepreneur with poor business practices, or an artist whom painted your favorite portrait, and you learn they are not the one picking up the brush. A piece of you may feel betrayed for fallen for a falsehood. I find this important to remember, when putting one on a pedestal, everyone is flawed, therefore your heroes will disappoint you.
Don't let those flaws negate from your aspirations. There are still much we can learn from them, unless its the instance of Milli Vanilli or our President Donald Trump, then that search for an opportunity may be more difficult. In case of the former, here is what we can do.
You and you alone know your goals the most intimately. So knowing where you stand and what you believe in, is what is going to propel you. It's also what you're going to see in them as a reminder of why you believed in them.
Your gut is your strongest form of intuition. This is how you will decide what is right and wrong, even when your mirror of success is someone who is unethical/unconventional. You decide what you want to takeaway from their success to build upon your values.
Let their mistakes be your roadmap. Study what lead them to that place of malpractice, so you can avoid such experiences, or how react accordingly to not duplicate their mistakes.
My favorite saying goes, you're not as good as they say you are; you're not as bad as they say you are. With that said, there are more likely more pieces of good to draw from them, than you can see now. One of my mentors growing up served a prison sentence for embezzlement. Learning the news, I was disappoint, yes, but a few things I took from our relationship was her belief in me, and her push for me to pursue post-secondary education. She was a strong force in the community I grew up in, in support of education, community service, and outreach. I was able to see past her mistake, and adopt those same values, that I practice today.
We all fall short of the glory. One day someone will look up to us, and find a short coming. So even though, our heros may fail us, we must not fail ourselves.