How To Deal With Toxic People
Good genuine people exist. As of late however, it feels as if its as rare as the African Antelope; beautiful, majestic, and globally cherished. We wonder, where are the empathic, the great conversationalist, those folks with the right amount of depth to connect with people. It seems but-a-fantasy to a lot of us.
So us good guys, we sometimes settle for the less miraculous bunch. We give some of the, excuse my French, fuckboys, and drama-queens a chance. We label these bad apples, our dramatic friend, or our emotional friend, or our unstable friend. Sometimes we give them that cute little excuse, they just had a rough life. So we endure the drama and the stress from riding their crazy train, without any regard to our own values and sensibility. They can really drag us down.
Trust me, it doesn't have to be a life sentence. So my challenge to you is to CUT THEM OFF! And expect a little more for yourself.
I've been there. I could give you a laundry list of shitty friends, and melodramatic ex's, who are on my permanent Do Not Disturb list. I'll admit, it hurts to push any human off your raft, but once you are back floating upstream, there is nothing more gratifying than having control over your time, energy, and sanity.
And if you don't believe me, here is a comprehensive list why:
Your time is too valuable - Enduring toxic relationships can eat up your time. The back and forth text messages, and calls; The inevitable meet-ups to fix your relationship, over and over again. That is time away from more positive interactions, and most importantly, your own personal growth and ambitions.
Healthy relationships can be just as exciting - I know its not as exciting than the roller coaster of a shitty one. You will find overtime, the hassle is never worth it.
You deserve to have your sanity - Their problems are not your problems. You have a responsibility to your own day-day. There is nothing more stressful that falling on the sword for someone else. I understand compassion and empathy, but understand when you are being taken for a ride.
Their actions are a reflection of their issues - A lot of times Toxic People will use you as a scapegoat for their issues. You more than likely did nothing wrong. You have to be able to recognize that, and respond accordingly. This is a manipulative tactic, and does nothing but enable them to continue their behavior.
It’s hard to let go of people we care about, but do understand, your well being is sovereign. Cut the fat, and you will find yourself in a more peaceful state.